I'd like to make a suggestion for you to sit with. I want to offer you a possible narrative of why life is difficult. This is not intended as a band-aid response to everything you've struggled with---I hate that. I wouldn't insult you by suggesting that all the bad in the world happens for a reason, or some higher purpose. Sometimes pain and loss happen, and there is no high or beneficial purpose. We can make the most of our turmoil, but we don't need to justify it, to ourselves or to anyone.
But I've been thinking a lot about this cartoon, where the healer suffers in silence far more than the people she heals. I've been contemplating why that is. Is this a commentary on our society's tendency to exploit the downtrodden and the willing? Or could there be some undercurrent of spiritual strength to this person that other people don't possess?
Let's explore the latter. Let's imagine that the healers of the world carry and possess power inaccessible to others. Let's consider why that might be. What is most interesting to me is that our ability and power to heal is directly proportionate to our strength.
I want to use a fictional example. Let's call her Margaret. Let's say Margaret has endured twelve lifetimes before this one. In her first lifetime, she lost all her children in a fire. In her second lifetime, she suffered slavery and persecution. In her third lifetime, she was born without limbs. And so on and so forth, each life building upon the next with a different shade of suffering and loss, until she reaches her twelfth lifetime. In Margaret's twelfth life (modern times) she is born into a family of abuse and alcoholism. She is bullied as a child. As an adult, her husband beats her. She loses everything in a divorce. People don't respect her, and she's the target of constant criticism and abuse. Each day is a struggle. Yet all the lessons learned in her previous lifetimes have given her tremendous strength. She has an inherent ability to recognize people's needs. She's sensitive to others. And that magnificent strength she has groomed through all her lifetimes takes on an energy all its own. Her spirit magnifies from her being. Other people sense it. They are drawn to it like a moth to flame. They lean on her. They need her and her strength.
Now did Margaret need to suffer all of those things? Was there purpose in it? Not necessarily. Nevertheless, her strength was of tremendous aid to others. She is surrounded by younger souls who haven't learned how to be strong. She cures wounds as well as sets an example. Although her suffering was not necessary or mandated, the world finds that it needs a Margaret, who can show us that we too can find tremendous strength within ourselves if we reach for it.
So here's a radical suggestion: You know the people who seem to have it so much easier? The ones who haven't had to endure nearly as much and don't seem to fight nearly as hard as you have had to do? Perhaps they aren''t strong enough yet. Maybe you're on phase 8 and they are on phase 2. Maybe the truly rugged souls decide to take on the most difficult lives. The people who attempt to climb Mt. Everest are the people who have done the training and acquired the stamina. Maybe you're on your Mt. Everest life.
Melanny Henson Osborn considers herself a Mystic Christian, a seeker of truth, a student of religion, and a spiritual healer. She has two degrees in Creative Writing, including an MFA from Iowa State. She has worked as a professional intuitive reader since 2013. Her gifts are discernment of spirits and prophecy. An astute student of Tarot, she is the author of Art History Tarot for Past Lives.