Terrified of water? Excessively nervous about heights? Obsessively scared of something bad happening to your kid? There could be a past life connection.
From my experience with past life readings, there are six ways to look for clues to your past lives:
Out of all the events that give clues to a past life, deja vu is probably the most abstract and least helpful. It often involves a particular moment in time: sitting somewhere specific, hearing someone say something or saying something aloud yourself, and then you have that uncanny feeling you've been here before. There is the rare case where you visit a foreign country and recognize your homeland, but more often than not, deja vu typically doesn't give us clues about who we were, where we lived, or what we experienced. Deja vu is often caused by remotely viewing your life before it happened, either in your reincarnated state, or in dreams, and is more relevant to this life, but there are times when deja vu can be clueing you into the past.
Dreams are probably the most helpful, as we are most likely to gain specifics here: what we looked like, where we were, and which events still impact our psyche. I would classify meditations and past life regressions under this category as well. Dreams where you are actually asleep are more trustworthy than meditations because the connection between the subconscious and conscious is more direct with less risk of outside suggestion or influence.
Phobias or Excessive Fears
Phobias and fears come up regularly in the past life readings I've done. If you drowned, you are afraid of water. If your son died young or without warning, you are likely to be overprotective. The information that arises is typically very helpful for this life: if you understand that you suddenly died in a past life, you might have more compassion and patience for your mother who is constantly fearful and downright paranoid about your whereabouts and safety. If you understand that you once drowned, it's easier to get your bearings when that seemingly irrational fear begins to take over on that family boat trip. You can talk yourself down because you are reoriented with the truth.
I have a birthmark over my stomach. It's about 1.5 inches long. I believe I was stabbed here in a past life. I've never recovered that memory, and I don't have any fears of being stabbed, but I carry a mystical connection to this birthmark. If I focus on the mark, I sense a vague connection to another time and an instinctive knowing arises about why it's there. Lost limbs and violent deaths are often memorialized in birthmarks.
If my clients suffer from depression or debilitating anxiety, I urge them to keep a journal. You need 2-3 years worth of notes, but you might notice these bouts of depression/anxiety happen the same time of year. A significant loss in a past life can manifest as depression on the anniversary of that event.
Of course, if you find yourself particularly attracted to a country or culture, chances are good you have a past life there, particularly if you have no reason for the attraction. The more random and unexplainable the fixation, the higher the chance there is a past life cause. Sometimes we need to work through something that happened in a past life in order to heal completely. But sometimes, we simply don't want to let go of the past. We want to retreat back to a life that was happier for us than this one. Attractions and obsessions with objects and/or people apply here just as well as cultures.
I always urge my clients to take the information they've gathered from a past life and find a way to apply it to the life they have now. If there isn't a way to do that, then that information isn't truly in our highest interest. There's a reason we don't clearly remember our past lives. We wanted a fresh start to work on the life we have now. The pain and tragedy we've experienced in our past lives ultimately hinders us. We wipe the slate clean for the sake of having a better chance of success. If that pain/tragedy is finding its way into the present, then it needs to be addressed through past life exploration. But although emerging our imagination and consciousness into a past life may offer a wonderful escapist quality that aids in coping with the realities of this life, we can get stuck there psychologically, and this escapism can get in the way of our own progress and the lofty goals we set for ourselves when we chose to incarnate in this life. Focus on how you can improve: which relationships need mending? Or which relationships should you let go of because this isn't your fault? In what ways did you fail others? How can you conquer this fear? By applying past life knowledge in this way, past life exploration serves you and your ultimate happiness.
Melanny Henson Osborn considers herself a Mystic Christian, a seeker of truth, a student of religion, and a spiritual healer. She has two degrees in Creative Writing, including an MFA from Iowa State. She has worked as a professional intuitive reader since 2013. Her gifts are discernment of spirits and prophecy. An astute student of Tarot, she is the author of Art History Tarot for Past Lives.